What is Gentle Femdom?

What exactly is gentle femdom?

The meaning varies for many people, but gentle femdom usually means domination without pain or humiliation. Some people are masochists and enjoy being beaten, tortured, or humiliated. But that’s not for everyone. Part of me does enjoy those aspects of domination, but it really depends on the person. Some people are just fucking asking for it, if you know what I mean.

I think I’ve always had somewhat of a dominant, intimidating personality, but I’m very quiet and you may not be able to pick this up from me right away. I have always been a boss/supervisor in almost every job I’ve had, not because I always like telling people what to do (but I sort of do, though), but because I have always been told I am a calming presence. “I just didn’t want to disappoint you,” many people have said, or “you were somehow intimidating, but I can’t put my finger on why.”

Gentle femdom to me is close to sensual domination. I like being in control of my partner’s pleasure. This could be as simple as giving him a handjob where he is not allowed to reciprocate (and is not expected–the so called “Dommegasm” is real–that means some Dommes can get off solely on the controlling aspects). It may also be the ability to deprive his sense or restrain him in some way. Gentle femdom does not often equal pain. It can, however, mean sensation play. It can mean light scratches with fingernails, spanking, holding someone down, or tickling them.

It can also equate to sensory deprivation–wearing hoods, blindfolds, or masking hearing. This usually stimulates the other sensations, such as touch.

In fact, if you are curious about femdom, I recommend starting out with those particular implements before you go balls to the wall with things like caning or whips!

Finally, the aspect of domination that I *most* enjoy is confessions. I enjoy being in a priest role where people confess their adventures to me, and I take that knowledge and write books. In this way, subs experience a sort of mindfuck knowing that their innermost secrets are being read by total strangers.

My sexuality is still developing as I learn new things–and I recommend you do the same. You may find more things you like.

Until then, I’m accepting evening appointments on Niteflirt. You can email me at brenda.blacklove @ gmail . com, message me on Niteflirt here, or message me on FetLife (I’m syrinx13). I do chats and phone calls.

Ciao,

B.

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